fix: don't render Marmot reactions/deletions as chat bubbles

WhiteNoise threads its kind:445 payloads across three inner kinds:
kind:9 for chat, kind:7 for emoji reactions, kind:5 for unreacts. The
Amethyst ingest pipeline was routing every inner event into the group
chatroom feed, so a kind:7 reaction rendered as a chat bubble whose
only content was the emoji, quoting the liked message via the target
`e` tag. That looked identical to a threaded reply. The actual kind:9
reply from `wn messages send --reply-to` never arrived, which made the
two look swapped in the UI.

Three changes to untangle this:

- MarmotGroupList.addMessage/restoreMessage now skip inner events with
  kind:5 and kind:7 before they enter `MarmotGroupChatroom.messages`.
  The reaction is still consumed by LocalCache so it attaches to the
  target note's reaction row, and the deletion still revokes that
  reaction — they just don't appear as standalone bubbles.
- LocalCache.computeReplyTo learned to derive thread parents for
  `ChatEvent` (kind:9) from plain NIP-10 `e` tags in addition to the
  existing NIP-18 `q` tag path. WhiteNoise emits `e`-tagged replies;
  without this the reply bubble had no quote context in the feed.
- tools/marmot-interop/marmot-interop.sh: `wn messages send` exposes
  its `reply_to` field through clap v4, which renames snake_case to
  kebab-case by default. The script was passing `--reply_to`, which
  clap rejected; the `|| true` + redirected stderr hid the error and
  no reply was ever published. Use `--reply-to`.

https://claude.ai/code/session_01K3g1uWLhByoEdBS77zdF32

commons/src/commonMain/kotlin/com/vitorpamplona/amethyst/commons/model/marmotGroups/MarmotGroupList.kt

@@ -47,6 +47,7 @@ class MarmotGroupList(
         nostrGroupId: HexKey,
         msg: Note,
     ) {
+        if (!isDisplayableFeedMessage(msg)) return
         val chatroom = getOrCreateGroup(nostrGroupId)
         val isSelfAuthored = msg.author?.pubkeyHex == ownerPubKey
         // Use the quiet path for our own messages so the relay round-trip
@@ -74,6 +75,7 @@ class MarmotGroupList(
         nostrGroupId: HexKey,
         msg: Note,
     ) {
+        if (!isDisplayableFeedMessage(msg)) return
         val chatroom = getOrCreateGroup(nostrGroupId)
         if (chatroom.restoreMessageSync(msg)) {
             noteToGroupIndex.getOrCreate(msg.idHex) { nostrGroupId }
@@ -135,4 +137,27 @@ class MarmotGroupList(
         rooms.forEach { key, _ -> result.add(key) }
         return result
     }
+
+    /**
+     * True if this inner event should appear as its own bubble in the group
+     * chat feed. Side-channel kinds (reactions, deletions) must still be
+     * consumed into LocalCache — they drive the reaction row on the target
+     * note and, for kind:5, revoke a prior reaction — but they must NOT show
+     * up as standalone messages.
+     *
+     * Needed because WhiteNoise emits plain kind:7 reactions (emoji content +
+     * `e` tag) and kind:5 unreacts inside kind:445, and the Marmot pipeline
+     * blindly routed every inner event into the chatroom. The reaction then
+     * rendered as a chat bubble containing just the emoji, with a quoted
+     * citation of the target message — which reads exactly like a reply.
+     */
+    private fun isDisplayableFeedMessage(msg: Note): Boolean {
+        val kind = msg.event?.kind ?: return true
+        return kind != MARMOT_INNER_KIND_REACTION && kind != MARMOT_INNER_KIND_DELETION
+    }
+
+    companion object {
+        private const val MARMOT_INNER_KIND_DELETION = 5
+        private const val MARMOT_INNER_KIND_REACTION = 7
+    }
 }